As a college student, I receive texts and email alerts
when there has been a sexual assault on campus.
Often times the message will begin like this… Notice of Sexual Assault:
In compliance with the provisions of
the federal Jeanne Clery Disclosure of Campus Security Policy and
Campus Crime Statistics Act of 1988 xxxxxxxx University is giving
notice of a Sexual Assault.
On xxxxx, xxxx, 2014 xxx Police were
notified of a reported Sexual Assault.
The incident took place on or about September x, 2014 at a private residence in
the xxx block of xxx Street. The suspect was an acquaintance to the survivor. xxxx
Police are investigating this incident.
The notice is followed by a reminder from campus
police suggesting dos and don’ts to stay safe:
Be on the lookout for suspicious people who may attempt to isolate someone that is intoxicated or has been drinking. Get involved, don’t allow that to happen; when consuming beverages, make or bring your own; Don’t ever accept open beverages or drink beverages that have been mixed by others; Never isolate yourself and let a friend know where you are and who you are with; Attend events with friends as a group; don’t ever leave your friends behind alone; If you are ever in a situation where you are unsure or scared call xxx Police immediately; Be alert and aware at all times when you are with acquaintances; Be aware of your surroundings and trust your instincts; Report all suspicious people and circumstances to the xxx Police Department.
The email usually culminates with contact information and links to various sexual assault and DV services in the area.
It
is estimated that one in five women, ages 16-24, will experience a sexual
assault on a college campus.
Friday
at the White House, both President Obama and Vice President Biden spoke
passionately about the issue and announced the launch of ItsOnUs.gov,
a personal pledge you can take to help keep women and men safe from sexual assault.
President
Obama called for college
fraternities, sororities, teachers and counselors to talk about the issue of campus sexual assault, as well as to “teach respect for women”. Obama also encouraged women to “speak up when something doesn’t look right”.
"This is on all of us", the president said. "Every one of us, to fight campus sexual assault. You're not alone, and we have your back", adding that campuses around the country are organizing to understand what campus assaults are about.
"We're going to put a stop to it", the president said.
"This is on all of us", the president said. "Every one of us, to fight campus sexual assault. You're not alone, and we have your back", adding that campuses around the country are organizing to understand what campus assaults are about.
"We're going to put a stop to it", the president said.
Change the culture. Change the attitudes.
Vice President Biden,
who has been at the forefront of the Violence Against Women Act, and the One Is Too
Many (1is2Many) campaign admonishes men to "step up", and "take the lead" in the fight against sexual assault.
"Violence against women isn't just a women's issue alone", Biden said. "It's a men's issue."
"Violence against women isn't just a women's issue alone", Biden said. "It's a men's issue."
The
launch of ItsOnUs comes at a pivotal moment in our culture when sexual assault
and domestic violence transcends college campuses, into the realm of everyday
life, including law
and sports.
The
NFL has been riddled lately with accounts of assaults and domestic violence
incidents that included a video of Baltimore Raven Ray Rice who was seen
knocking out Janay Palmer his former girlfriend, and now wife. The video went viral and Rice was suspended
from the team.
This
and several other incidents in the NFL surrounding violence against women has
prompted the NFL to take a look at how the incidents should be handled and what
the punishment should be for the perpetrator.
Commissioner Roger Goodell, speaking
at a press conference, also on Friday said the league will establish a
committee to review NFL personal conduct cases.
What did I do?
Often times the victim, and society, will wonder what did they to cause an assault.
That question was put to the test earlier this summer when ESPN Analyst Stephen A. Smith, suggested that women need to become aware of items that could "provoke" abuse from a man. Smith was subsequently suspended for two weeks, and issued several apologies.
"It is NEVER", get this straight", exclaimed Biden, "Never the right question for a woman to ask, "what did I do?" Said Biden, "the question is, why was that done to me, and will someone do something about it?"
Attitudes about women and their roles in society have often been debated.
Nikhil
Bhai, a doctor visiting Washington from the Europe, in our conversation with
him, told us that women should focus more on being like women, and not being
like men, suggesting that there is a power conflict between the two sexes.
"A
man’s world is where women want to be", said Bhai. “Let’s not be like men,
rather exercise your strengths as a woman”, he said.
While
Bhai’s seemingly archaic views have taken the efforts of the women’s suffrage
movement back to prehistoric times, to his credit, both his wife and daughter
are doctors, but suggest the pressures stemming from a professional career can
put undue stress on the family structure.
Perhaps
it is these types of attitudes that continue to help foster patterns of
unproductive views and overall attitudes toward women and girls that needs to be changed.
Abuse - know the signs. Know your rights.
BreaktheCycle, an organization geared toward
empowering youth to end domestic violence (including sexual assaults) recommends
knowing these warning signs of a potential abuser:
·
Checking cell phones,
emails or social networks without permission
·
Extreme jealousy or
insecurity
·
Constant belittling or
put-downs
·
Explosive temper
·
Isolation from family
and friends
·
Making false
accusations
·
Erratic mood swings
·
Physically inflicting
pain or hurt in any way
·
Possessiveness
·
Telling someone what
to do
·
Repeatedly pressuring
someone to have sex
Sexual harassment of
students, which includes acts of sexual violence, is a form of sex
discrimination prohibited by Title IX. Know
your rights.
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